I want to reiterate the importance of not opening your third eye too early. As we continue to see the rise of spirituality across different avenues of faith, especially when it comes to the energetic body and tapping into practices like chakras or chi, there’s a lack of awareness around what people are actually doing when they begin. It’s becoming more common for people to open themselves up to something before they understand who they are. They awaken to a level of perception without having a foundation underneath it — no sense of identity, no grounding, no stability within themselves. This is where we start to see a lot of what gets labeled as new age spirituality psychosis. People begin with their third eye. They open themselves to seeing truth, to perception, to awareness, but they do it before they know how to hold what they’re seeing.

I talk about the importance of understanding that chakras are a braid — they're not a line, but interwoven. Before you tap into the ability to see truth, we can look at a basic Kundalini process. Before you open yourself up to seeing truth, there are things you should be able to hold within yourself. In the following questions, we’ll start with your sense of security and work up to your source connection.
Do I feel safe exploring new avenues?
Do I feel safe cracking my reality open?

Am I able to create the space for me to rest, to nervous system regulation?
Do I feel like I have the supports I need, and if not, do I know where to find them?

Do I know who I am, and if not exactly, do I know the roots of my identity, so that while I go through things like ego death and dark night of the soul, I don't get lost in the process?

Do I know what my light is, what my soul is?
Am I open to understanding dualities?

Am I able to heal and love myself, because seeing the world for what it really is can be harmful?
And if I have empathy, do I know how to build boundaries?

What is it that I actually want to share with the world?

What is it that I'm not seeing clearly?
What is it that I should be seeing?
What is it that I should close my eyes to?

And within all of that, am I able to connect to source, to God, in a way that is grounded in who I am?

A lot of people go through a spiritual awakening, and the first thing they do is they start having healing classes. “Meditate with me.” “Do breath work with me.” They start sharing it immediately. But when they start sharing without being clear on why they’re doing it, it becomes escapism — spiritual escapism. They don’t actually align with the teaching or the healing work. They simply feel passionate about what’s happening. It’s almost like if they don’t do something with it, they feel like they’re going to lose it, like others should have access to it for some reason. But that urgency isn’t alignment. It’s still escapism.

You see a lot of people go into patterns that resemble psychosis, where they quickly try to step into roles like yoga instructors or facilitators. You see variations of practices, like themed yoga or surface-level adaptations, because they’re not actually connected to the root, the core, the truth of what the practice is. They see something and feel like they understand it well enough to teach. They tell themselves, I’m good at this, I can teach this. But they don’t actually align with the work itself. Instead of embodying something like breath work, they pull a few ideas from what they find online and build from that. Especially with the rise of AI, it’s easy to create guided meditations and offer them as services. They decide it’s good enough and sell it for 10, 20, 50 dollars. But it doesn’t always reflect true alignment.

It’s because we’re breaking out of the illusion. One of the things people experience is a disconnect from the systems they’ve always relied on, especially when it comes to money, structure, and the way value is exchanged in a patriarchal, consumer-based world. When that disconnect happens, people often lose their sense of access to abundance. And if you’re moving outside of your purpose, you can start offering things in a way that feels like begging — like, why don’t you want this from me, why won’t you do this with me. It’s still coming from a place of misalignment. Dare I say, from lack.

This is where you see a lot of people start to strip things away — deleting social media, stepping back from what they’ve known — and within that, they begin trying to connect to source, to God. Now, this doesn’t always happen in a set order, but it’s important to understand that spirituality has to become your own. It’s not just about starting with the third eye, even though that’s what most people focus on when they begin. You have to recognize where your imbalance actually is. If I grew up constantly moving, constantly unstable, then starting with my root chakra before building anything else might be what’s right for me.

If I’ve been denied my identity for most of my life, then while someone else might start with their root chakra, I would start with my solar plexus. From there, you can get to a place where you can open the third eye, for example. “I feel safe seeing the truth.” That’s your root intertwined with your third eye. Or your solar plexus and third eye — “I trust myself to see clearly. I trust myself not to have invasive or overwhelming visions or experiences.” Before you allow yourself to move into things like astral projection, dream state meditations, or past life regressions, you have to ask — do I feel safe being myself? Especially because dreams are said to be visions of either hopes or fears, do I feel safe opening myself up to influence or invasions of other energies, like fear, or even entities that would aim to distract, harm, or steer me wrong in these spaces? Do I see their intentions clearly? Do I feel safe holding my own space without inviting in confusion, projection, or anything that isn’t grounded in who I am? And thus, we build discernment.

I think it’s really important to talk about the interweaving between chakras, and how deeply impactful that actually is — how we are impacted by truly understanding what the chakras are and how they work beyond the surface-level idea of “the root is here, the crown is there.” It’s more than that. They’re interwoven. It’s a living system. It’s an energetic body within you. In the same way that your brain sends signals to your toes to wiggle, your root chakra can send signals to your throat — telling you, you should feel safe expressing yourself here, or don’t, this is not the space to do it. And when you allow yourself to listen to that, you come into alignment, not escape.

A lot of people tap into spirituality because they want to escape real life. They reach for mantras, chants, affirmations, but they’re not actually in alignment with what they’re saying. They’re not in alignment with the mantras, the chants, the affirmations, the mudras — they’re not in alignment with any of it. So instead, it becomes a search for a way out — a way out of reality. It’s like throwing pasta at a wall and seeing what sticks, hoping that if I keep taking the path, the right answer will find me. But if we allow ourselves to stop and recognize, I don’t actually have to suffer this way, and I allow myself to see myself clearly, then the question becomes — If I want to be in spirituality, who is the “I”?

I always think people should start with the solar plexus first. Because through that, you’re able to say, I feel unsafe, I feel ashamed, knowing exactly who you're talking about. From there, you begin to move your way out of it, piece by piece, through embodiment, through the inverse of those feelings. But you can’t do that if you don’t know what you’re trying to inverse. If you don’t know what you’re actually trying to bring into balance.

If the first thing you do is say, “I’m going to go into spirituality — I’m going to do a root chakra mudra while playing a third eye meditation,” when really your imbalance is in your solar plexus and your crown, you start building on something that isn’t actually yours. Understanding how to make spirituality your own becomes everything. There is a direct path for you — and nobody else knows it.

All of these things are tools. If you’re trying to plant a garden without digging into the soil, nothing will grow. It doesn’t matter how many tools you have — garden gloves, plant lights, fertilizer, shovels, rakes. It doesn’t matter if you have seeds or anything else. If you do not dig into the soil, nothing will manifest. You will not blossom the way that you want to. And it’s important to understand that.

We should be more discerning about how people enter into practices. We need to start shaming people when they walk into practices that they're not meant to be in, shaming people when they step into things for the wrong reasons. Gatekeep your practices, gatekeep your ayahuasca, gatekeep your water meditations, all these different things. Allow people to seek you out in a way that isn't a Google search. Allow people to step up to the plate and really say, if you want to tap into what I'm doing, or who I am, the services, the love, the knowledge, the energy that I have, you have to prove it. Because this is what it all boils down to — a lot of people in spiritual psychosis, a lot of people spreading misinformation. The third eye might be the first thing you open for some people, but not for everyone. And when you understand that all of these things are also intertwined, it becomes much deeper, and it is all based on the intention that you put into it. So if your intention is escapism, then escapism is what you're going to get. If your intention is I don't know what I'm doing, then you have to counteract that with, “please show me the way, please show me what I should be doing,” whilst making sure that you can be receptive to what comes through, from where and from who, whatever the things might be, and removing the barriers that would confuse you.

Start where you are, and be honest about what’s actually there. Before you try to open your third eye just because that's what everyone else is doing first, make sure you can stand in who you are with your eyes closed. Because without that, seeing more won’t bring clarity, it will only bring confusion. Alignment isn’t something you escape into, it’s something you build through a true, authentic understanding of who you are.

It’s your path, act like it.

Until next time,

Honestly Ayala